If A was all about alchemy and transformation, then B feels like the natural next step… because once things start shifting, the question becomes: what are we actually becoming? And I think this is something we don’t talk about enough, especially in midlife. There’s this quiet expectation that by a certain age, we should already be who we are. Sorted. Finished. Fully formed.
But that hasn’t been my experience at all. If anything, I feel like I’ve changed more in recent years than I ever did in my twenties or thirties. Not in a dramatic, overnight reinvention kind of way, but in small, subtle shifts. The way I think, what I care about, what I no longer have the energy for… it all evolves. And sometimes it’s uncomfortable.
Because becoming isn’t always this exciting, glowing process. Sometimes it looks like outgrowing things, letting go of old versions of yourself, and realising that what once fit you perfectly… doesn’t anymore. And that can feel a bit unsettling, if I’m honest. But it can also feel freeing.
There’s something quite powerful about getting to a stage in life where you start listening to yourself more. Where you trust your instincts, even if they don’t make sense to anyone else. Where you stop trying to squeeze yourself into spaces that were never really meant for you in the first place.
That, to me, is what becoming is. Not turning into someone completely different, but slowly uncovering who you’ve been all along. Peeling back the layers, dropping the expectations, and allowing yourself to just… be more you.
And maybe that’s the real magic of this stage of life. Not having everything figured out, but finally feeling like you don’t need to.
It’s funny, really, because this idea of becoming shows up everywhere — especially in books and films. Becoming by Michelle Obama is the obvious one, and I remember reading it and thinking how honest and grounded it felt. Not about being perfect, but about evolving through every stage of life. Then there’s The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, which explores life and identity in such an unusual way, and Eat Pray Love, which is all about stepping away from a life that no longer fits and figuring out who you are again. Different stories, different paths, but all circling that same idea… we’re always becoming something new.
A lot of what I write about here is inspired by the same ideas behind my book — especially around transformation, intuition, and becoming who we really are. If you’re curious, you can find it on Amazon but if you google it you will also find it on numerous other online bookstores.
