After everything I’ve written about so far — the shifts, the changes, the emotions, the hormones — this feels like a natural place to land. Because through all of it, there’s one thing I find myself coming back to again and again… and that’s intuition. That quiet inner voice. The feeling that something is right… or not quite right, even if you can’t fully explain why.
I think when we’re younger, it’s quite easy to ignore it. We second guess ourselves, we look for reassurance from other people, or we convince ourselves that we’re overthinking things. I know I did that a lot. I’d feel something instinctively, but then talk myself out of it because it didn’t seem logical or didn’t fit with what I thought I should be doing. But the older I get, the more I realise that intuition is rarely wrong.
And I’ve had very real experiences of that. There was a woman I always felt a bit “off” with. I couldn’t put my finger on it at all, and that’s unusual for me because I generally get on with almost everyone. But with her, something just didn’t click. There was a slight unease that I couldn’t explain, so of course… I ignored it.
We ended up getting more involved than I probably should have, doing what we could to help her and her family in all sorts of ways. And then, over time, things shifted. Her true colours came out, and both she and her husband ended up treating us really badly — despite everything we’d done for them. And looking back, I can see it so clearly. That feeling I had right at the beginning? That was my intuition. I just didn’t listen to it.
It might not always be loud or obvious. Sometimes it’s just a subtle feeling. A hesitation. A sense that something doesn’t quite sit right. Or on the other hand, a calm, steady knowing that something does feel right, even if it doesn’t make perfect sense on paper. And what’s interesting is how much this ties into everything else.
When you’ve been through periods of disillusionment, you start to see things more clearly. When you become more aware of energy, you start to feel things more deeply. And when you begin to accept your flaws and honour your off days, you naturally become more in tune with yourself. And that’s where intuition really starts to come through.
It’s not about being perfect or always getting it right. It’s about listening. Noticing. Paying attention to how things feel, rather than constantly looking outside yourself for answers.
For me, it shows up in small ways as much as big ones. A feeling about a person. A decision that just doesn’t sit well. Or sometimes a quiet pull towards something that I can’t fully explain, but know I want to follow. And the more I listen to it, the easier it becomes to trust.
That doesn’t mean I never doubt myself — of course I do. But there’s a growing sense of confidence that comes from knowing that I can rely on that inner voice, even if I don’t always understand it straight away.
I think in midlife especially, this becomes such an important tool. We’ve lived enough, experienced enough, felt enough… to recognise what feels right for us and what doesn’t. We just have to be willing to listen. Because at the end of the day, no one knows you better than you do.
And sometimes, the answers we’re looking for aren’t out there somewhere… they’re already within us.
This is something I explore much more deeply in my book too — that idea of trusting yourself, listening to your intuition, and creating a life that actually feels aligned from the inside out. If that resonates, you can find it on Amazon and if you google The Enchanted Midlife by Suzy Turner, you will also find it on numerous other online bookstores.
